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How to know if my friend is gay

How Do I Assist My Gay Friend?

by D’Ann Davis

“How undertake I help my gay friend?”  This is a ask we hear constantly in the Living Hope office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world.  Twenty years ago several Christians asked this question, for not many knew any similar gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were illiterate to their friend’s struggles.  Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as gay or deals with a measure of equal gender attractions.  Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of life where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this scrutinize is of utmost importance in delicate of the convert of our society and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly discuss about their issues.  So how does one help a gay-identified friend or SGA friend?

The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question.  “Does your friend understand Jesus?”  This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to support a friend deal with her sexual attractions.  This is because there are two different ro

If Someone Comes Out to You

Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you sufficiently to be honest and risk losing you as a friend. It can be difficult to know what to say and what to do to be a supportive friend to someone who has “come out” to you. Below are some suggestions you may wish to follow.

  • Thank your friend for having the courage to tell you. Choosing to tell you means that they have a great deal of respect and trust for you.
  • Don’t judge your confidant. If you have strong religious or other beliefs about LGBTIQ communitites, keep them to yourself for now. There will be plenty of time in the future for you to assume and talk about your values in light of your friend’s identity.
  • Respect your friend’s confidentiality. Allow them the ethics to share what they wish, when and how they crave to.
  • Tell your companion that you still care about them, no matter what. Be the friend you have always been. The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them.
  • Don’t be too serious. Sensitively worded humor may ease the tension you are both probably feeling.
  • Ask questions you may own, but understand that your ally

    Understanding the Situation

    Sexual orientation is a personal matter, and unless your friend explicitly tells you, you can never be 100% sure. However, if you’re wondering whether your friend might be gay, either because you suspect they’re struggling with their identity or you think they might have feelings for you, it’s important to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect.

    Here are some common signs that might indicate your friend is gay and how to navigate the situation without making assumptions or making them uncomfortable.

    1. They Shun Talking About Their Care for Life

    If your friend dodges conversations about crushes or relationships but is content talking about every other aspect of their experience, it might be because they’re not ready to discuss their sexual orientation.

    Examples:

    • They change the subject when someone asks about their dating life.
    • They rarely state any romantic interests.
    • They feel uncomfortable when discussing relationships with the opposite gender.

    This doesn’t necessarily mean they’re gay, some people are just private, but if combined with other signs, it might be a clue.

    2. They Show a Strong Interest in Diverse Topics

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    I have a similar situation with my relationship. My boyfriends gay partner is inLove with him and he doesn’t realize that.  there is so many things that make me understand that.

    1 they notice each other once a week to drink in a bar, when they do and receive drunk, my boyfriends gay friend starts complementing him  in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in like eyes. start making inappropriate joke

    2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my lover and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying  DOESNT HE Glance LIKE HIM???

    3  he told my crush that he heard that i was dating one of his friends  a couple of times( guy that I don’t even know). obviously lies.. don’t know what was exactly his intention.

    4 he invited my boyfriend first  to an island  and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my boyfriend didn’t go.

    5  he always pays for everything, dinner, uber,  all the drink in the bar ( mos