Why are gay guys so mean
Gay Men and the Thin Line Between Sass and Sexism
The gay community has an issue with misogyny — guised under the hazardous idea that “gay men can’t be sexist.”
As a gay man, I have never felt like I truly fit in — there’s a certain narrative for everyday life that doesn’t speak to me.
It’s as though I am not essential enough for myself to be individually addressed.
As a product of this I often feel a deep sense of anxiety, not stemming from history of mental illness, but rather human world — and our imagination’s ability to make us believe we can peruse other people’s minds and hear all the horrible things they are saying about us.
I comprehend that I am not the only gay man who thinks this. It is just one of the grueling side effects of being gay, and it is something straight people will never understand.
With that being said, there has always been a deep, personal connection that women almost always sound to share with us. A certain empathy of one person being proficient to connect to another, in a mutual expression of respect and nurture. The way they look at us and can relate to the feeling of not belonging, or being made to feel as though they are
Do All Gay Men Want To Be Mean Girls?
Stop trying to make fetch happen…
By Jesse Boland
When queer people glance back on the films of our youth in an attempt to reignite the prodigious pleasure of our inner child, we so seldom see depictions that would stimulate us to be the proud adults our childhood selves dreamed we could one day get. Gay men who were too fresh at the moment to watch Brian Kinney bareback his way through the existentialism of debaucherous nightlife in Queer as Folk, or pick up on the queer coding of nefarious vers-top villains in animated Disney films, instead grew to idolize the women who led the films of our adolescence. More specifically, the mean girls.
Gay men have always turned to strong women in media as pillars of vigor in our people. Whether it be Judy Garland, Diana Ross or the Green M&M, these heroines have for their divine might been vouchsafed into the pantheon of gay icons. For a long moment, this was the closest we could get to seeing ourselves on screen, as gay characters were still considered taboo in mainstream media.
In depictions of teenagers in motion picture and television, many gay men always felt the closest connection to the pret
For years, friendships between straight women and gay men have been a subject of pop customs fascination. Books, television shows and feature length films have all highlighted this unique relationship, noted for its closeness and depth.
But with society’s attitudes toward gays and lesbians changing, it’s change into all the more important to build a holistic understanding of the relationships between gay and straight people.
As a researcher in social psychology, I’ve often wondered: why do straight female-gay male relationships work so well? Why are straight women so drawn to having gay men as friends? And when do these relationships typically form?
During the course of my research, I’ve discovered that the most absorbing, compelling – and, arguably, most theoretically coherent – explanation is through the lens of evolution.
Specifically, I believe evolutionary psychology and human mating can aid explain why relationships between linear women and gay men look after to flourish.
A safe bet
At first glance, this explanation may sound quite counterintuitive. (After all, direct women and gay men don’t mate with one another.)
However, this is precisely the reasoning behin
by Jonathan Hoffman, PhD
According to Derek (not his valid name), an extremely fit-looking 30-year-old corporate manager whose interview follows below, Muscle Dysmorphia (MD) is “perhaps the most serious issue facing gay men aside from HIV/AIDS.” He is not only passionate regarding sharing his own experiences to help others, but also about raising knowledge regarding this significant issue for his community.*
A amazing deal of information about MD and BDD may be found throughout this website. The following interview focuses on MD, as experienced through the eyes of one member of the gay community.
Interview
JH: Why do you assume MD is such a major problem in the gay community?
D: MD, in my opinion, is the most widespread, under-diagnosed, and misunderstood disease to clap the gay community since AIDS. We are body obsessed. Walk into my gym, or others fond of it, and you can see the sharp raise in the amount of people taking steroids and other growth hormones. It can affect personal and professional growth and execute as a roadblock if you let it consume you. Because being homosexual can be so focused on looks, it’s often hard to concentrate on other parts of your li