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What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what direct women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and outline out a true list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the queer and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities offer in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The same comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
What gay and bi men say they want
Just enjoy straight women and direct men, “we enjoy be
The Attractive Homosexual Man
In less homophobic countries like the UK and France, certain surveys demonstrate that about 4% of the elder population identifies themselves as homosexual. The taboo in exploring one’s sexuality makes a lot of people conform to the social expectation that they are supposed to be heterosexual cis-gendered individuals. Even if an individual explores her/his identity and finds out that she/he doesn’t fit the social norm; the stigma that haunts an individual in the aftermath of coming-out scares away people from publicly sharing their sexuality. Hence, this 4% is a highly deflated number. But still, let’s serve with this 4% by assuming that this percentage of the world’s population is gay.
4% means only 1 young man among the 50 students in our co-ed classroom, 10 men in a 500-student batch of our college, or about 20 men in the (say) 1000 clients, customers, colleagues, suppliers, workers, staff, etc. that we deal within about 10 years of work, all considering a 50% sex ratio. With ‘Coming-Out’ still organism so difficult in India, I am sure most of us won’t even know who that one classmate was. The proportion of 4% is so tiny and yet we often perceive sayings around thi
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Gay Men: What Happens When You See Someone Hot?
Typically when we see someone with a “perfect” body we feel:
lust,
followed by…
jealousy,
followed by…
feeling bad about our body or our life.
We often make up a story about the person.
Typically the story looks something like:
“They probably have a great being, with lots of mind-blowing sex and amazing weekends of entertaining with friends.”
which then may head to another story such as:
“Everyone my age has a excellent life except me.”
We can drop into the comparison trap, which is almost always an unpleasant road trip.
A Helpful Secret From a Gay Psychotherapist
I want to reveal what I’ve seen from over 17 years of active mostly with gay men.
I must explain that this is my opinion from clinical practice. No one is putting research dollars here.
I’ve noticed that my most attractive and fit clients effort the most with feeling awful about their looks. They are more insecure. And it is painful for them.
I share this in hopes that it helps you soften some of the damaging stories you may be telling yourself when you spot gorgeous people.
Perhaps this information will help you begin to exercise telling yourself a new st