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From ‘sex means penetration’ to ‘all effeminate guys are bottoms,’ these are the most common myths about gay sex between men
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- Sex between men is all but absent from mainstream media, and the few existing sex scenes often misrepresent typical sexual encounters.
- INSIDER talked to several gay men about what people of all sexualities acquire right and incorrect about sex between men.
- Most of the common myths surround anal sex. Homosexual men can't often have anal sex spontaneously, and "top" or "bottom" is not a everlasting state that says something about your personality or gender role in a relationship.
- Several gay men also point out that sex often doesn't include penetration at all. The idea that all sex means anal sex, they said, comes from applying heteronormative structures to gay relationships.
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Gay men and other men who have sex with men
Abebe- an international student from Ethiopia, 24-year-old who identifies as male (he/him/they) and has been sexually active for the last five years. Abebe’s appointment is by telehealth. About three months ago, he started exploring his sexuality and has had sex with a few male partners (if asked for more detail – 4/5 partners, both insertive and receptive anal and oral sex, infrequent condom use). Abebe is feeling confused and uncertain about his sexuality and would never own felt comfortable exploring it further while living with his parents in Ethiopia. He is worried about anyone in his family finding out, particularly his father. Abebe has no significant medical history but has been feeling a little anxious lately. Abebe has never smoked cigarettes but has been experimenting with some recreational drugs since coming to Australia. He drinks alcohol with friends on weekends (4-5 drinks per occasion) and has tried some MDMA. These occasions are also when he started to experiment having sex with men. Harm reduction education is provided regarding drug use and linked into community organisation for carried on support.
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Can gay men give blood?
Gay and bisexual men are not automatically prevented from giving blood.
Men who own sex with men and who have had the alike partner for 3 months or more and meet our other eligibility criteria are able to give blood.
Anyone who has had anal sex with a modern partner or multiple partners in the last three months, regardless of their gender or their partner’s gender, must wait 3 months before donating.
We evaluate your eligibility to grant blood based solely on your own individual experiences, making the process fairer for everyone.
If you are taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) you will be unable to give blood. If you stop taking PrEP or PEP, you will need to wait 3 months before you can give blood.
We appreciate that any deferral is disappointing if you want to save lives by giving blood.
If you have previously been unable to deliver blood because of the guidelines and would enjoy to donate, please contact us on 0300 123 23 23. One of our team can review the new guidelines with you and, if eligible, book your next appointment.
Why is there a 3-month wait after sex?
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Sexual health for gay and double attraction men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to hand over on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps protect against HIV and lowers the chance of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone new, you should have an STI and HIV prove every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is significant, as some STIs do not produce any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can receive it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated meal and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can show up to 8 weeks after sex and include tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a occupied recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can avoid getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se